Stress is inevitable in our lives. We face a variety of stressors – work, family, finances, relationships, expectations, society, world events, lack of sleep, emotional trauma, traffic, etc. Whenever we deal with uncertainty and change, it can bring stress. Stress impacts us physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, and the specific impact varies for different people and in each situation.
Stress initially has positive impacts as it can strengthen our resolve and motivate us to rise to the challenge being presented. However, we each have a threshold – what the American Institute for Stress calls “The Hump”. After we pass this, it becomes distress, and impacts us negatively. Distress can manifest in a variety of ways – confusion, feelings of helplessness, anxiousness, depression, high blood pressure. If persistent, distress can contribute to and/or aggravate nearly all disease. It has been called America’s #1 health problem – we need to work toward a solution to improve our wellness!
Because we experience distress differently, managing it is also very individualistic. There are numerous ways to alleviate feelings from distress such as meditation, yoga, massage, vacation – anything that relaxes you and makes you happy! But managing it can be difficult for many people. I am a case in point! Prior to being a coach, I have worked in several “high performance” jobs, and my work frequently came with pressure to sacrifice myself for the greater good. Needless to say, work often caused distress for me. Emotional support is a great resource for managing distress, and I often turned to family and friends for support. However I found that that wasn’t working for me – I was not actually relieving any distress and was actually hurting some of those relationships and not actually relieving any distress.
So I hired support in the form of a coach! A coach would listen to me objectively, empathize, and not take anything I said or emotion I displayed personally. A coach would help suggest ways to deal with my issue and also hold me accountable to take action. A coach would be in my corner supporting me while guiding me to do the work. My coach has been incredibly helpful! My coach encouraged me to say “no” more frequently, ask for what I needed from my boss, and gave me suggestions to find ways to relax more when in the office (like getting outside for breaks and simulating my happy place even when in my office). I still experience distress related to work, but I feel much stronger in my ability to manage it!
If you struggle with distress, we’d love to work with you to create a plan for yourself to manage and mitigate it in your life! Contact us for a free consultation to learn how we can help!