As of late I have been witness to two and have heard about two other acts of aggression ranging from simply seeing someone at a bar flipping off the group I was with for no apparent reason, to someone I love getting shoved by a stranger over a parking space, to a blind friend of mine getting harassed by street thugs, to a friend of a friend murdered in a hate crime. All of this has transpired over the last 2 weeks and it has left me in deep contemplation about our species and the society we’ve allowed to be in existence.
My initial reaction when my loved ones are under fire? I see red. I think that’s the case for most people, and it’s normal. As I allow myself to sit with these incidents, I find myself feeling compassion for, of course, my friends and loved ones, but also for the perpetrators of these acts against humanity.
As a society, we raise children with ideals; take an eye for an eye, and don’t back down from a fight. On top of which there are ego and entitlements which disregard our fellow human being as an actual human being. When did a parking space become so pivotal to have, when was the last time a blind person walking down the road did something to set you off?
While I am appalled by the perpetrators, I do also feel deep compassion for them. Those who use aggression towards others have serious personal development work to do and probably need something far more than I have to offer as a coach. How lost are we as a society that we get triggered so quickly that resorting to aggression is a course of action that will benefit any of the parties associated with the incident? It won’t, and it doesn’t.
I love people, I want to make this place better for everyone whom I come into contact with. I strive to be the change I wish to see in the world, and I am by no means a model of perfection, however, If you are a person who chooses aggression as a solution to a non-aggresive issue, please, seek professional help and find out what it is underneath that drives this behavior.
I love you, get better, we need you!